Our Services

The Institute is highly acclaimed throughout New Jersey and the nation for its innovative programs that work with multiple family members and across family structures to build therapeutic communities. This experience of therapy offers adults and children who have been stigmatized and labeled with an experience of self-transformation as they are embraced by rich connections and support. These opportunities for healing are offered to families of different forms, classes, and racial backgrounds, regardless of their presenting issues.


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Here are some important practices of ancient healing incorporated into our therapeutic practices, and now backed by modern science

  1. We need the support of a community in order to thrive
  2. Helping others will make you healthier
  3. Acupuncture can restore balance to your body
  4. Meditation can help you reduce stress and discover inner peace
  5. Compassion is the key to a meaningful life.
  6. Accepting what you can’t change is key to reducing suffering

Click here to read more about 8-ancient-beliefs

Family Therapy for Diverse Families

The structure of families today includes traditional nuclear families, single parent families, extended families living together, same-sex couples with families, and in-laws living with couples and their children. Each of these families face different and similar challenges, like trauma from different life events, the stress of parenting, balancing demands of work, raising children and attending to their academic, social and recreational needs. Increasing rapidly is the challenge baby boomers face to balance the caretaking of elderly parents while staying active in the lives of their children and grandchildren.

Here are some examples of consequences related to parenting styles:

Authoritarian Parenting and some Results:

  • High expectations of children
  • Strict rules expected to be followed unconditionally
  • Obedience and status oriented
  • Expect rules to be followed without explanation
  • Use punishment rather than discipline

Permissive Parenting and some Results:

  • May lack of self-discipline
  • Poor social skills
  • May be self-involved and demanding
  • May feel insecure due to lack of boundaries and guidance
  • May have poor impulse control and relative immaturity
  • May possess inordinate dependence on others

Authoritative Parenting and some Results:

  • Parents want children to use reasoning and work independently with high expectations for their children
  • Fair and consistent discipline for breaking rules
  • Parents are flexible; allow children to explain under extenuating circumstances and adjust consequence accordingly
  • Parents act as role models and exhibit the same behaviors they expect from their children, allowing children to internalize them

Expanded conversations around Differences Between Discipline and Punishment are helpful to parents learning healthy ways to parent children from toddlers to adolescents. Managing children in the world of cyberspace and savvy kids reigns high on the parental radar given the complexities of today’s world.

Click here to read about socializing Boys to Men with Love and Compassion:

Batterer’s Intervention based on Accountability for Heterosexual and LGBTQQI Perpetrators of Intimate Violence

Bi-lingual services in Spanish.

Program Structure

  1. Program is 9 months long with weekly meetings.
  2. Group/Culture Circle interventions that incorporates individual and family issues.
  3. Team of therapists including men and women from diverse social locations.
  4. Sponsors, men and women who have completed the program and ally with the therapists to engage new members.


Content of Program:

  1. Focus on masculinities and gendered norms that promote violence against women.
  2. Shift rigid patriarchal norms to more expanded norms that support equity in relationships.
  3. Provide non-violent parenting techniques, working with men in their roles as partners and fathers within a group of men sharing healthy non-violent experiences of parenting.
  4. Use concrete tools and social media to educate and raise critical consciousness.
  5. Use liberation based healing strategies for victims/mothers as well as perpetrators.
  6. For victims create safety plans and new parenting strategies for children.
  7. Intergenerational work done with perpetrators many of whom have experienced political and familial trauma and others who are raised with legacies of entitlement.
  8. Substance abuse education
  9. Active building of network of relationships to reduce isolation for both victims and perpetrators.

Restoring Safety and Social Learning to Schools

We work to restore safety and social learning in schools and in other systems that privilege parts of children’s identities while subjugating others. Many institutions that house youth today, from schools and sports arenas, to detentions centers and mental health centers, all claim ownership over the identities of these youth. From the criminal justice system to bullying in schools, in public spaces and on the Internet, we make a case for advancing strategies of resistance and embracing liberatory practices for the empowerment of ALL children.

An educational culture that focuses on competitive academic success, high scores on tests, and student retention mutes those voices that foster key ingredients to success. Research shows that combining academic performance with character strengths provides success throughout life.

These findings are not systematically integrated into most classrooms and school teachings. In our tutorials, we provide all the tools and research necessary to make the case to educators and administrators about the importance of a learning context that builds, emboldens, and embraces character strengths (BEEC) alongside academic achievement.

Click here to Read More about how schools can partner with parents, children/youth and the community to make schooling a win-win experience for all.

Children’s Therapeutic Circles

Children are engaged in addressing complex and diverse life challenges rather than being embedded within the problems they are referred for. Topics such as loss, parental conflicts, divorce, school challenges, friendships, struggles around gender constraints, racial and class targeting are all addressed. Their specific problems are interrupted. Shifting the segregation of age specific groups we embrace children and adolescents within a circle that more resembles their natural life space i.e. children of different ages and adolescents up to the age of 14. Adolescents older than that are used as mentors in the circle. There is also a separate circle for adolescents from ages 13-17 who address their own life-cycle issues and challenges.

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Professional Training and Student Internships

The Institute offers professionals specific trainings and internships in the Cultural Context Model (CCM) that include strategies from major family therapy models. This approach is instituted at several locations nationally and internationally. At Lewis & Clark Portland, Oregon), the CCM is integrated into some classes and the intern clinic.

Dr. Cornel Pewewardy of Indian Studies at Portland State University has incorporated a key concept of intersectionality through the use of our published tool for teaching this concept: Hierarchy of Power, Privilege & Oppression. Dr. Rebecca Chaisson from Southern University and Dr. Judith Lewis from Tulane University both in New Orleans, Louisiana have incorporated the social education of the CCM into their classes. Puerto Rico, Jamaica, Ecuador, Sweden, India, Canada, and Mexico have all received intensive training in this liberatory model of therapy and continue to engage with us in moving this paradigm forward.

IFS offers an event-specific intervention for schools and a one-year program in violence prevention

IFS is a founder of the Liberation Based Healing Conference.

Professionals in Marriage and Family Therapy clinical social work and counseling can obtain hours towards licensure.

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Our graduate internships in family therapy, social work, counseling and social policy involve weekly sessions of didactic and experiential learning and live-supervision absolutely essential in today’s making of a therapist!

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